BACK-SEAT DRIVER: ˌbaksēt ˈdrīvər/ a passenger in a car who constantly gives you advice about how to drive
ARMCHAIR QUARTERBACK: ˈärmˌCHer/ ˈkwôrdərˌbak/ a person who is not a quarterback but offers opinions and criticism on the performance or decisions f those who are
“Back-seat Drivers” and “Armchair Quarterbacks” are phrases used that are negative in their connotation. They imply unwanted or inappropriate advice is being given. Every single pastor that I know (EVERY pastor I know), has experienced this from both members and visitors of their congregations…and yes, sometimes the advice provided really is negative in its intent. But, more often than not it comes from people who are passionate about their church and their faith. It isn’t mean. It isn’t disrespectful. In fact , much of the time it is the pastor who is defensive and perceives it as threatening. Those in a church who offer advice like a Back-Seat Driver simply want the best for the church and for the people who gather there.
It is with the best of intentions that I offer up some thoughts based solely on the advice and suggestions of those who offered it without invitation. Why? Well, it isn’t to poke fun at the people or their perspective. It isn’t to disparage someone’s ideas or ridicule anyone’s point of view and perspective. Rather it is because I believe, as difficult as it may be for all of us, that unsolicited advice is actually very, very helpful in at least one of two ways. First, it often points out things of which we are unaware such as the temperature of the worship space. In ours, I’m under a bunch of bright, hot lights…if I’m comfortable, it is likely someone else is cold. Or when it comes to sound, I love loud music (LOVE loud music). What’s a perfect volume for me may be too loud for others…you get the point.
The second way that unsolicited feedback is helpful is that it forces us to evaluate why we do what we do. Is there a reason? Is there a purpose? Are we just going through the motions?
It is this ‘second way’ that motivates me…
In this BLOG section I will lift up comments anonymously that I have received over the years, both recent and long passed, that have forced me to do exactly that…think through why I do what I do.
My thoughts, the reasons and responses to some of that feedback, are what I want to unpack here…after all, you may have the same unsolicited advice in your minds and just didn’t have the guts to share…. 🙂
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